Why Have We Normalised Abuse? The Hidden Psychology Behind Rising Rage in India

sharmamonica633
Nov 28
3 min read

In the last few years, India has witnessed an alarming rise in public anger, verbal abuse, and emotional outbursts. Viral videos, like the rec

ent Noida incident where a woman verbally assaulted a security guard, or the Delhi Metro argument, are only small windows into a much deeper issue.

But why are so many people losing control? Why does abusive behaviour feel more “normal” today than ever before?

Let’s explore the psychological layers behind modern rage, and what we can do to break this cycle.

1. Why Do People Actually Abuse? The Anger Beneath the Surface

Abusive behaviour rarely happens “suddenly.”It is usually the result of long-standing anger issues, unresolved emotional wounds, and years of suppressed frustration.

Just like a balloon that keeps filling with air, a person keeps absorbing stress until one moment, a tiny trigger, makes everything burst.

Many people carry:

Unresolved trauma
Suppressed anger
Old emotional wounds
Negative belief patterns

When this emotional load remains unmanaged, verbal aggression becomes their outlet.

2. Poor Anger Management and Pandemic Trauma

The pandemic didn’t just affect physical health—it strained mental health globally. According to the World Health Organization, nearly 1 in 4 people experienced mental health issues such as anxiety, irritability, and depression.

This increased emotional vulnerability makes people more reactive, more defensive, and quicker to anger.

When emotions go unmanaged, anger becomes:

louder
quicker
more destructive
and often misdirected

This is where anger management therapy and emotional regulation support become essential for many individuals.

3. The Need to Dominate: Why Some People Use Abuse as Power

Another hidden reason for abusive behaviour is the need for control.

Some individuals use aggression to:

assert dominance
take center stage
intimidate others
feel “superior”
compensate for insecurity

When someone feels unheard, powerless, or emotionally cornered, they often resort to intimidation or abusive language as a form of self-protection.

Long-term stress, unresolved interpersonal conflicts, and lack of healthy boundaries can make these reactions even more intense.

People with low empathy, or those who grew up in chaotic homes, may also adopt abusive behaviour because it feels “normal.”

4. Exposure and Conditioning: Why Abuse Feels “Acceptable” Today

The harsh truth is this:We have unintentionally normalized abusive behaviour.

Movies, OTT platforms, reality shows, and even casual conversations often glorify shouting, insulting, and using foul language.

This constant exposure conditions the brain to believe:

“Everyone abuses.”
“It’s normal to yell.”
“Anger is strength.”

As a result, screaming at strangers, abusing staff, or fighting in public no longer shocks society the way it once did.

But normalization does not mean it is healthy.

5. Abuse Is NOT a Mental Illness. It’s a Behavioural Pattern

Many people mistakenly assume that abusive behaviour must be linked to a psychiatric or neurological disorder. But abuse is not a brain disorder, it’s a behavioural issue.

When someone abuses:

They express anger in their most familiar language
They revert to deeply rooted habits
They replicate learned behaviour from childhood or environment

This means abusive patterns can be changed with awareness, emotional regulation, and professional support.

6. You Don’t Need to Navigate Anger Alone: Support Is Available

If you or someone you know struggles with anger, verbal aggression, or emotional outbursts, professional help can bring immense transformation.

At Counselor Sharma, we have a specialized team of online counselors trained to help with:

Anger management
Emotional regulation
Trauma healing
Stress management
Relationship conflicts

(You can add the link to your Online Counseling Team page here naturally.)

Online counseling allows you to get support from the comfort of your home, especially helpful when dealing with sensitive issues like rage, emotional instability, or communication problems.